A little while ago I noticed a thing on Facebook that said something like this:
I don’t want to be rich, live in a luxury house or have expensive things; I just want to be happy”
I’ve seen other similar quotes on Facebook and most often they are posted by people who don’t have much, may be in or coming out of some sort of personal crisis and have resigned themselves to their fate of never becoming the person they really want to be.
It’s a fatalist attitude and in my opinion way too commonplace. There is nothing wrong with having ambition, nor is there anything wrong with wanting to be happy. It’s just that it seems to me that you can’t have one without the other.
Happiness usually can be distilled down to a few things.
- You have to be honest with yourself. Know and be true to yourself, forget about what you think you want or what you think you want to be and just be honest.
- Don’t copy others, model certainly but don’t copy. Make your own goals and stop trying to attain other people’s goals. You are unique so anyone else’s goals won’t fit you.
- Work out what you are happy with in your life then do more of that. Amongst all the things that you may think are wrong with your life, there will be something you like however small.
- Being happy is about how you feel. Work out how you want to feel…
- Money and material things on their own will not bring happiness, but life experiences will.
- Take personal responsibility for everything you do.
- Do things that will directly help you reach your goals.
- Do all the things that make you happy…
Overall happiness is all about the decisions you make that affect the way you feel. Once you know how you want to feel you are half way there.
We make decisions every day, some of them simple, others that are life changing.
These are the decisions that alter your life, rightly or wrongly. The ones you regret the most are the bad decisions and the ones that result in a happy fulfilling life are the good decisions.
What ever decision you make at any given time will result in your life being different after you make up your mind.
You have to get good at making decisions because of the potential impact on your life. You can’t predict the future, but you can certainly have an influence by making the right choices.
The quality of your life is the result of the decisions you make
Our lives are the sum total of the choices we have made
The experience you call your life is the result of the decisions you make. They may not be correct, acceptable or comfortable but once made, you have to live with them.
The trick is to make decisions that impact your life in a positive way and catapult you in the direction of your dreams and aspirations.
The key to remaining successful in anything you do is to be able to anticipate where your business or life is heading.
Obviously, it pays to know what you want your future to look like and where you want it to go so that you can anticipate events that happen around you and manipulate things to suit yourself.
This isn’t a joke, the robots are coming, many are here now and don’t think you won’t be affected because one way or another you will be.
If you want to achieve anything, your state of mind really matters. You simply can not be positive, creative or productive if you don’t fell right. You could be negatively creative I suppose but what would be the point?
Granted, if you are working for someone else and you either don’t think it really matters how well you do your job or you just don’t care, then fine. See how long you last and don’t complain when you lose your job…
On the other hand, if you are healthy, inspired and feeling positive you will do a good job no matter what you do.
It is often said in the personal development world at least, that you are the product of the 5 people you spend the most time with.
This is true for everyone, both successful and unsuccessful people, therefore in order to become successful, you must surround yourself with other successful people and model them.
Modeling the behaviors of successful people is how you can become successful yourself. Behavior modelling has been formally recognized as the primary way we define ourselves.
Today is the day I go into the hospital to have reconstructive surgery to my right collar bone.
I broke it in a bad fall off my motorbike during an off-road adventure ride in the South Island of New Zealand. I didn’t realise I had broken it at that stage, it was just really painful!!
I rode a further 3000 kms before I got home to see my doctor and discover it was broken. It hurt even more after finding that out, funny how the mind works…
Anyhow, after being seen by an orthopedic surgeon, I’m getting the offending collar bone plated together today at 10 am.
Why does life always have to be so hard? Why do you always seem to be struggling against some thing or some one to get any where in life? It just isn’t right, life is mean’t to be enjoyed isn’t it?
How about challenging your beliefs about your work, your life and why life is so damn hard and turn it around so you go downhill instead. Take the path of least resistance and enjoy life, take time to smell the roses.
Of course this is much easier said than done, but not impossible. You just need to change your thinking. Someone once said that you are the product of your own thinking…
Well…do something about it. Think differently. Think about how you WANT your life to be. How you WANT your life to look.