Look After Yourself First

Getting What You Want

You Can Have Anything You Want

When it’s all said and done, you can have anything you want. It might take a while and it will take a lot of hard work, but it can be done. The thing is you have to know exactly what it is that you want and you must know why you want it.

The reason why has to be real though, it has to be clear and specific so there is no doubt in your mind so that you have the determination to see it through.

You have to have the courage to do what you want because it isn’t going to be easy. The hardest part however, is making the decision to proceed. Often people make grand statements about what they want then give up trying to get it because it doesn’t happen fast enough. In this modern world of instant gratification that we’ve been forced to accept with fast efficient communication and the internet, this can be a difficult concept to grasp.

the trick is to set small targets, daily steps to complete in order to reach the ultimate goal. You need to take massive action, but that does not mean doing everything at once. You will need to break down the process into easily achievable tasks that can be done daily then you can track your progress on a weekly or fortnightly basis.

Confirm your results are leading you in the right direction then make small adjustments and corrections because everything you do has unforeseen side effects that you will not have anticipated. That’s just the way it works, every action has a corresponding effect which you need to anticipate then make your adjustments to your plan as you go.

Re-confirm your results regularly and make continuous adjustments. Eventually you’ll find you have reached your goal. This is habit forming, consistently do this in all areas of your life for the rest of your life and you will be successful.

How You Do Something Is How You Do Everything

Once you know how to do something, you can then use the same techniques to do anything else. Always strive to keep things as simple as you can, there is little point in over-thinking or over-complicating a task.

Honestly, this is how I became so good at repairing printers and mailing machines. I worked out how the machine worked (they all pretty much work on the same principle) then applied a bit of simple logic to the design to understand how that principle was applied. Every time I looked for a complicated answer to the problem, I struggled to find the solution.

“Simple Is The Ultimate Form Of Sophistication”

– Albert Einstein

When I decided to give up Civil Engineering to go farming, I soon found out that I didn’t know anything about farming really, things like good animal husbandry and rotational grazing systems for example. I knew the result I wanted so I applied the ‘keep it simple’ principle; if I didn’t know how to do something I taught myself by learning how others solved the same problem, then improved upon it (or my way failed or broke) so that I developed my own way of doing things through understanding and knowledge.

I did the same again when I became a motelier, when I became a printer technician and when I became a hotel franchise owner. Now, I’m the first to admit that I never quite grasped the idea of good business, but I’m not giving up on that, I just need to learn from my mistakes and keep learning and educating myself.

I still want a lot of things. I have achieved the lifestyle I wanted and I’m very happy about that. The next step for me is to create a new business that I can rely on once I am either no longer capable of caring for my disabled son or that situation changes because I’m not fully in control of it.



What Is Happiness?

What Is Happiness?

Happiness is a misunderstood concept. Happiness is hidden most of the time, it’s not an easy thing to find and sometimes you don’t even notice it. We tend to let things overtake us, distract and frustrate us to the point where we don’t even know how to be happy anymore or even what it feels like.

Like many people, as I have got older I have come to realise that happiness has nothing to do with money, success or power.

Happiness Is A State Of Mind

Always strive to make today a little better than yesterday. I was once a real estate agent and while I remember very little of the training course I took to become one, I do remember the tutor saying this: “Make Someone Smile Today”. She had it hand written on every page of her diary, which I thought was a wonderful idea.

worry is a wasted emotion

Steve Hansen, coach of the New  Zealand All Blacks rugby team

Learn to let things go rather than allow them to keep gnawing away at you. Try not to let things get to you; it’s not easy, in fact it’s bloody hard but you can do it just by doing a little bit each day, be better than yesterday, rather than trying to make a massive transformational  personality change all in one go!

Happiness Is All About Love

We are happy in the moment. That moment when all of the crap and worry in your life just doesn’t matter. Like the birth of your first baby…

…that time when you achieved something really great.

Happiness is all about love, significance and feeling loved. It’s about relationships; always having people in your life who will look out for you no matter what. Obviously, we all fall into relationships that are bad for us and we learn to avoid those in the future, mostly anyway. Try to choose relationships that serve and support you. It works both ways of course so the result is a relationship where both parties feel wanted, trusted and cared for.

Take a look at your friends, do they really care about you or are they just there to get what they can from you? Things like recognition, fame, fortune, as if being seen with you or associated with you some how rubs off on them.

Relationships. We all have them, humans simply can not exist without them, we are social beings who like the comfort and security of being is relationships.

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Life Needs Balance

Keep Things In Perspective

Everybody’s life needs balance, some call it “work life” balance but it’s more than just that. Certainly keeping some sort of balance between your work and the rest of your life is important, but don’t you find that as things in your personal life get messed up more and more, work becomes an escape, an excuse not to face up to whatever is going on in your personal life. That’s not work life balance, that is simply just denial and procrastination.

Your personal life gets thrown out of balance by interference. You know when your trying to tune in a radio station and you can’t quite find the perfect signal and all you get is hissing and garbled noises that are interference of the signal. That’s what life gets like and most of us allow it to happen because we don’t know how to deal with it.

Interference in this case is anything that messes with your head. Advertising, TV, the news, social media, marketing messages…these are all other peoples voices rattling around in your head causing you frustration and anxiety.

You have to rise above all this interference or better yet, get rid of it where ever you can. Don’t watch mindless TV programs, don’t watch or listen to the news, unsubscribe to all marketing you get through your email inbox every day and don’t read junk mail.

You’ll soon realise that all of this stuff just isn’t necessary in your life. Choose what you want to listen to and take notice of. Choose to do what you want, it’s your life after all not anyone else’s.

It’s great to finally realise that it doesn’t really matter what other people want you to think or what they think of you or anything you do. Get a tattoo if you want one and do things that others might not approve of.

Overcome obstacles as they arise. I like riding my motorbike and flying. Those are things that require your total concentration and you can’t afford to let distractions take your mind away from what you’re doing otherwise you could die…rise above the noise because you’ll find that if you don’t everyone wants a piece of you, your attention and frankly, it just gets a bit much sometimes.

Become An Individual

Put yourself first, be confident and enjoy life. Enjoy the fact that you can do what you want and be happy. It’s not easy to achieve but it can be done and when you achieve it, it is very worthwhile. Living in the interference screws with your head so it’s best to keep away from it.

If you let it, all social media such as Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, the list goes on, will take over your life. Try living with a 15 year old and you will soon see how the smartphone lierally rules their lives, it’s insane!

Escape the interference, the constant chatter, the noises of life and become the person you want to be. You just don’t need negativity dragging you down all the time.

Thanks very much for taking the time to listen or to read what I have to say, I really appreciate it.

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Next time I will be discussing Happiness…what is it and how do you get it?




Planning Gets Results

Success Is Vision, Planning And Taking Action

So just how do you keep moving forward when things are going bad?

Make changes to what you are doing. Make a plan, create a VISION of what you want your life to look like. It can take as long as you like, so long as you take actions towards that long-term vision and focus on those actions until they are done.


This means making incremental progress, like mini-goals, that you need to be hitting regularly like every week or two weeks so that you maintain your momentum. It doesn’t matter how slow you go sometimes, so long as you don’t stop.

As I mentioned in the last podcast, don’t try to aim for any goals further than 90 days or 3 months away.

You may need several 90 day blocks or goals in order to achieve your ultimate vision, so do it. Take as long as it takes, you have a plan so the results you want become inevitable, they have to happen.

Remember to always focus on the 90 day goals NOT the vision. The vision is set in stone, it is the end point of your master plan it doesn’t move. Having said that your job is to create achievable goals that can be completed in 90 days or less.

Momentum is what you need so how do you do it?

First – Know what you want. You have to know this otherwise you won’t know when you get there.

You must know what you want with absolute belief, certainty and conviction, and you must know why you want it. This is your VISION.

Secondly – Set goals for how to achieve your vision but make certain they can be reached within 90 days.

Third – Break down your goals into mini-goals which can be achieved in a week or two. Then assess your progress as you go and adapt and change as required.

There is little point in worrying and stressing about all you have to do, simply concentrate on the tasks you set to achieve your weekly or fortnightly milestones. It’s like going to the gym, improve a little bit each time you go but don’t stop going until you get the result you want.

Once you start taking action, things will change and they will keep changing. Your goals become moving targets but your vision never moves. That’s why you need a plan, because then you don’t need to worry about the big picture. Hit your goals the best way you can and the vision will happen. It simply can’t be any other way.

Every successful business has a business plan, I remember having to do this when I was a franchisee and hated it. It seemed such a waste of time because you never stuck to it because things kept changing. I never realized it at the time, but that’s the very reason you make a plan, so that you can respond to changes. It should not be static, a good business plan is a living thing that moves and adjusts but eventually it hits the desired target…the 90 day financial target you set at the beginning. (or better than that)

Successful People Document And Journal.

I’m only just learning this lesson now, call me a slow learner if you like, but at least I get it now.

Have you ever noticed how you can be really busy all day but actually achieve nothing?

It is most probably because you are dis-organised, running around putting out fires, dealing with stuff that’s not your responsibility and trying to do everything at once.

Let’s get it clear once and for all…


Every time you split or divert your attention away from a task to do something else, you lose time and you lose momentum. The more you try to do, the more time you lose to the point where there simply isn’t any time left.

It happens all the time, you wake up with the greatest of intentions but as the day goes on you lose sight of that and achieve very little.

Furthermore, every human being has an inbuilt will to fail. Call it fear of success, fear of commitment, whatever, we all have it and it can strike at any time.

A really good example is Facebook. How often do you sneak a look at your newsfeed? How much time do you waste? Do you leave Facebook running on your browser while you are at work so you can take a quick peek whenever you get a notification? This is a classic time-waster!

What about prodigious book worms? Avid movie watchers?
Shopping? Eating? Smoking? Anything to avoid actually doing the work or taking the actions neccessary to maintain that momentum towards your goal.

These are all symptoms of the Will To Fail.

You have control over how you feel and what you do. If you are having a bad day, then have a bad day. Don’t beat yourself up over it. You can always catch up tomorrow. To quote from the final line of the movie “Gone With The Wind”;

“…because tomorrow is another day!”

How you do what you do, and how you live your life is entirely up to you. It’s really just common sense, you know your plan, just make it happen. It’s up to you how you get there in the end.

Opportunities crop up all the time, especially once you you make a decision. This is why you have to be flexible to recognise them and take advantage of them by adapting your plan to suit the results of the actions you have already taken.

A rocket heading to the moon is almost never on course but it makes constant adjustments and corrections to it’s course in order to hit the target, the moon.

“Nothing happens until something happens” – Tony Robbins

Therefore the formula is this:

Move from Intention to Decision to Action. Intentions without decisions or action get you precisely nothing. Use your weekly or fortnightly mini-goals to evaluate your progress and make corrections as required. If all is good, then keep doing what you’re doing until the next assessment. It’s that easy.



New Year’s Resolutions – Goal Setting

New Year Resolutions

Hi everyone, it’s great to be back blogging and podcasting again after a break of 9 months! I have no excuses for stopping, my heart just wasn’t in it anymore and I had a lot of personal stuff going on…just like everyone else. My problem was that I didn’t fight through my issues and didn’t stick to my work.

That is really the point of this blog/podcast. Not giving up when times are tough so if ever there was a good reason for a New Year’s resolution then this is it.

Everyone who has ever made a New Year’s Resolution will agree that the resolutions they make or goals they set for the year are usually toast by the end of January.

You don’t need to feel bad about it, that’s just the way it works, but have you ever wondered why??

I only learned the reason just recently from two guys actually, but really sunk in when I listened to a webinar by Todd Herman.

Todd is a very well known performance coach in the U.S. and he says that the human brain simply is not designed nor is it capable of processing goals set any longer than 90 days out. He then goes on to say that these 90 day goals or challenges should the broken down into action steps, as many as you need to achieve your goal in the allowed 90 days.

The key is actually taking actions. Tony Robbins talks about Massive Action, Scott Smith talks about Massive, Imperfect Action. What ever you want to call it, you have to take deliberate measured action steps within a given time frame that are achievable and relevant to your overall goal.

That is why New Years Resolutions do not work. They are not clearly defined and certainly not usually ever going to happen over the course of a year!

I have noticed a couple of things since I’ve got back to this, technology has moved on, the WordPress platform I use to write this and the publishing platform I use for the podcast hosting are so much nicer to use. Secondly. everything I had done in the past is still there, as if I never left and lastly, people have continued to download my podcasts even after the hosting company stopped sending them to iTunes. That means people are still going to my website to find the podcasts and for that I am extremely humbled.

Thanks for listening/reading, I’m not sure how often I’ll be posting just yet but I will be making it a regular thing.

It’s A Scam! It’s A Pyramid Scheme!

It's A Scam! It's A Pyramid Scheme!In this podcast, I have quoted and recited for the most part, an article by Randy Schrum. Randy is a prominent marketer, mentor and business owner who has had a big impact on me as a trainer and mentor.

The article talks about franchising and how it was once considered to be a scam, to the point where the U.S. Congress wanted to make a law against it! The article then goes on to explain how network marketing can now be referred to as Franchising 2.0.

Network Marketing has evolved to the point where it is not only just like franchising, but it is better. It incorporates all of the benefits of the franchisee as well as those of a franchisor. Network marketing is really rather special…

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Woudn’t It Be Nice

 Wouldn't It Be NiceWouldn’t it be nice if we were older, then we wouldn’t have to wait so long….the opening lyrics of the famous song “Wouldn’t It Be Nice” by  The Beach Boys recorded by Pet Sounds, Capitol Records 1966. “If we think and wish and hope and pray it might come true…” the song goes on to say.

While the Beach Boys sang this song about young lovers wanting to be together forever, the same can be said for wanting to do something terrific with your life instead of wasting it away working in a job you don’t want to be doing, but you think you have to.

If you have those feelings and a burning desire within you, then for goodness sake, do something about it.